If you have worried over the fact that your marriage seems to be falling apart and questioned whether there was anything that you could do do stop the misery and make things right again, you will be glad to know that yes, there is a way to turn your marriage around.
When a marriage has deteriorated to this point it may seem that there are no solutions to the problems, when in fact almost all problems have a solution. There are couples who begin the journey to save their marriage every day and there are several things that can be done to prevent a divorce if you too want to save your relationship.
First of all, think before you act. Spend some time alone in thought, mull over the course your marriage has taken. When a marriage is so close to failing, there is generally much finger pointing and blaming going on. Each partner often lays the blame of all the problems in the marriage solely on the head of the other partner. Reflecting on the past will often open your eyes to the fact that both of you are guilty of not only being part of the problem but also in neglecting each other and allowing your marriage to fall apart.
Remember, nobody is perfect, everyone makes mistakes, including you. Each negative thing that either of you have done has contributed to the relationship sinking further into decline. No matter what has happened the “blame game” won’t solve it, and in fact will make things worse. Stopping all negative talk is the first step to making things right.
The saying “if you keep doing what you have always done, you will keep getting what you have always got” is so very true. You both need to change your actions and your attitudes toward each other and your marriage. You may have never considered the fact that your feelings toward someone are affected by how that person treats you.
Think about it, you tend to feel kindly to people who treat you kindly. This fact is never more obvious than in a marriage. There is no way to have a loving, caring marriage when you treat your spouse in ways that are uncaring and unloving.
Beginning to think more loving thoughts about your spouse will allow you to act on those thoughts in ways that are caring and love filled. When your actions are loving you spouse cannot help but notice and this will in turn have an affect on their feelings an actions toward you.
It may sound unbelievable and simplistic, but creating a cycle of love and caring is possible. While solving your marital problems won’t happen overnight, you will see positive changes in a short time.